POTENCY
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24. I want to talk a little bit today not about why a man or a woman leaves his/her parents, but why a man or a woman leaves his wife or her husband after they become “one flesh.” Why does a man or woman separate from each other after they are married for three months or after they have a 3-year- old baby?
The Bible says in Matthew 19:6, “"So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."
When a married couple is divorced, who separates them? Why do they separate and not stay together until one of them dies? Doesn’t the Bible say that what God has joined together, let no man separate? This is not an easy question to answer. Why? Because there may be 1001 good answers why do they separate and they can all be valid answers.
My short answer is that they are in a rush to become “one flesh.” They are in a rush to have sex. Muslims are taught that they cannot have sex before they are married. And some Christians feel guilty to have sex before they are married? And so they decided to marry first before sex. What other reasons could there be? I have no Bible verse to support my belief, but I am confident that I am correct. A man leaves his mother and father, or a woman leaves her father and mother primarily because they, the man-woman, are physically attracted to each other at the moment. All that the man sees in the woman is her physical attraction, and all that the woman sees in the man is the physical attraction to him, nothing much more. Rarely do they evaluate their partner in terms of compatibility until they are married, have lived together for some time, or until they have serious problems such as when the woman discovers that her man has two previous marriages and that his salary was garnished because of unpaid child support for the past two years. It’s that time when the woman decides to leave her husband, if she is smart, or stay with him for the next 30 or 35 years until he loses his potency, and then she says “goodbye” to him. Do men know this fact of life? Most men are not aware that they will lose their potency sooner than later.
When men and women are attracted to each other based only on their physical attributes, their relationship will usually last as long as the physical attraction does not change. But as we all know we will all grow old and ugly. Physical attributes are temporary. We must look beyond physical characteristics, or otherwise, we will be disappointed. We must look at the moral characteristics of the man or the woman that we want to marry. Take an inventory of the virtues of the man or the woman that we want to marry if we want our marriage to last longer than a year or two. Take a good look at the ethical behavior of our future wife or husband.
Why are the character attributes of a man or a woman more important than the physical attributes such as the beauty or good-looking facial appearance of a man or woman?
The Bible says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
The job of a man or a woman after they become “one flesh” is to raise children in the way that they should. Parents must know how to raise their children. Where do newly-wed couples learn the skill to raise a child in the way that he should go when all they have is a good-looking face? If the husband or the wife doesn't know how to raise a home, the home and the children will suffer.
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